Monday, 24 June 2019

T The restoration of God's people

A violation of trust

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Trust is the reliance on and the confidence in the truthfulness, worthiness, reliability, integrity and character of a person. To trust someone is giving credit, honor and praises to a person, while voluntarily depending on that person. 

When we think about relationships, whether it’s a friendship, a romantic relationship, parents, siblings, coworkers etc., we think about trust. It is an incredibly important issue in each and every relationship. Take trust away and most of the time, there is nothing left. There are millions of quotes from – according to this world – inspiring and wise people, telling us that trust is the basis of any relationship. Trusting each other means that you feel safe around each other. It gives us a sense of safety, acceptance and freedom. It is the picture perfect state of every form of relationship. That is until that trust is violated. In most cases, that changes everything. 

A very familiar quote is: “Trust is the hardest thing to find and the easiest thing to lose.” In some sort of way trust has become a form of currency in every relationship. It has become a revenue model. The more good things you do, the more trust you’ll earn. The more trust you’ll earn, the better the relationship will grow. Trust is in the first place build by consistency, but also by integrity, competence, sincerity, reliability and commitment. You have to do something for it. It’s a revenue model. The same applies for others as well. People have to do something for you in order to stay in a relationship with you. They have to proof to be trustworthy, all the way, all the time. Whether we realize this or not, it is some sort of system in our way of thinking. When one of the building stones of trust becomes damaged, we start to measure the damage. Based on the ‘costs’ (emotionally, physically or financially), we decide if we are willing to overcome the issue and to grant another chance (aka invest in the relationship again).  

Once trust is damaged, it is usually a hard job to regain it. From the point of the one who was betrayed, it becomes harder to get involved in such a relationship again. Betrayal is one of the toughest things to deal with. The most seen response is that we are walling ourselves off from each other, which only perpetuates the problem. We place walls around our heart to protect our most vulnerable feelings and emotions. The more trust is violated, the more we are betrayed, the bigger and thicker the walls around our heart become and the harder it becomes to give ourselves in other relationships. But this does not keep us safe, it keeps us lonely and isolated.

And then there’s the point where you find out that this whole ‘system of trust’ is not in line with the Word of God at all. A while ago I heard a familiar man of God say the following: “Love everyone, trust no one, only God.” A remarkable statement, compared to the believe system of this world. Psychology will tell you that you will never be able to have healthy relationships without trust being involved. I have found out that God tells us the exact opposite of that. I have checked the almost 200 places in the Bible where the Word talks about trust, and I’ve found out that at every place the Word talks about trust in a positive way, it is always (and only) about trusting in God. But it goes further than that. The Word explicitly tells us that everyone who trusts in a human being is under a curse. 

Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart departs from the Lord. For he shall be like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see when good comes, but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land which is not inhabited. Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, and whose hope is the Lord.
Jeremiah 17:5-7

That is quite a bit to take in. Here God tells us that no human being should be trusted. Then He says that everyone who does trust a human being is cursed. To God that is the same as departing with your heart from Him. That is a very substantial statement, since we know how incredibly important our heart is to God. The result of the curse that is connected to it is spiritual and natural poverty, as well as spiritual blindness and unfruitfulness. Let’s be honest, who hasn’t trusted in another human being? We all did. Now why is trusting in a human being such a bad thing? God answers that question a few verses further.

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings.
Jeremiah 17:9-10

Instead of what many believe, Jesus never taught otherwise. He even emphasized it by teaching us how wicked our hearts are. He started by telling that it is possible to honor Him with your lips, while your heart is far from Him (Matthew 15:8-9). Then He continued by teaching that our heart produces evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness and blasphemies (Matthew 15:19). Jesus never said that curses would never apply anymore. But what He did do was offering us a way out from under the curse, because of His sacrifice. That way out always starts with repentance. 

As you may know by now, I do not only want to know the ‘what’, but also always the ‘why’. That question is partially answered by what God says about the condition of our hearts. But it doesn’t really tell us what trust does and what the connection is exactly. So let’s take a look at those ‘building stones’ of trust, being consistency, integrity, competence, sincerity, reliability and commitment.


The word consistency shows us the ‘constant factor’. In other words, the thing that is always there, unchanging, cohesive and perfectly in line. When we talk about the constant factor, then I have to think about Hebrews 13:8, where it says: “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” There is not a single man who is able to say the same about him- or herself. 


That can simply be explained as faithful and true. Again, there is no human being who can honestly say this about him- or herself. When we look what the Word says about ‘faithful and true’, we can find the name ‘Ne’eman V’Yashar’ (Revelation 19:11), which means exactly that and is one of the identities of Jesus Himself. 


This can be explained as the condition of being capable, to be able to do something right. In Philippians 4:13 the Word says: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” That also means we can do nothing without Christ and without the strength He is giving us. Again something we can’t do on our own. 


True sincerity is freedom from deceit, hypocrisy and falseness. It is earnestness and probity. All combined we can conclude that this is the difference between knowing and walking in the truth and not knowing and walking in the truth, whether it’s because of stubbornness or because of lack of knowledge. It is only Jesus from Who we can say that He is the Truth (John 14:6), truthful and faithful (Revelation 19:11), for we have all fallen for deceit, hypocrisy and falseness on one of more areas. 


This can be explained as predictable and dependable. This brings us back to Jesus Christ, being the same all the way, all the time. He is the Only One Who is always predictable and dependable, as ‘Rosh vaSof’ (Revelation 1:8), the Beginning and the End. No matter how hard we try, on our own strength we can only maintain our reliability for a period of time. The only alternative we have is to pretend. 


The act of pledging, an obligation or promise. In Isaiah 55:11 the Lord says that His Word will always do for which it was sent. The greatest example of His commitment was the fact that He sent Jesus Christ to this earth, to safe us. Jesus, the Living Word. The Word that was accomplished in every detail. Again, this level of commitment, which is the only true commitment, cannot be reached on our own strength. 

When we look at all the building stones, we can see what God meant by the fact that we can’t put our trust in men. Every building stone collides with the condition of our hearts. Believing that we can trust in a human being, no matter who it is, comes forth from pride, from trusting in our own insights and judgment. There is no such thing as shared trust. We trust in God or we trust in men. When we trust in men, God says that our heart then departs from Him. So we have to choose one of both. Trust in God, or trust in men. The decision is ours. 

He who is of a proud heart stirs up strife, but he who trusts in the Lord will be prospered. He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered.
Proverbs 28:25,26

Do not trust in a friend; Do not put your confidence in a companion
Micah 7:5

It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in princes.
Psalm 118:8,9

Do not put your trust in princes, nor in a son of man, in whom there is no help.
Psalm 146:3

Yes, we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves but in God who raises the dead, who delivered us from so great a death, and does deliver us; in whom we trust that He will still deliver us.
2 Corinthians 1:9-10

When trust is violated, something was already wrong before it was violated. It means you’ve trusted in a human being. This may not sound as a nice thing to say. Especially if you’re the one who was betrayed. But I can’t bend the Truth of the Word. Some things have to be said in order to really help you to get to full healing, deliverance and restoration. That can only be done when we submit ourselves to and accept the Word that God gave us. 

Relationships are not built on trust. They are built on love and love only. That love is given to us by God and we have the capability to choose to share it, to give it away like Jesus did. Selfless. At the same time we can see something striking out in the examples of the building stones of trust. That is that Jesus is present in each and every one of them. For now I want to help you to deal with the betrayal you have faced, because I do realize how painful this can be. Therefor I’m giving you a prayer that you can pray, in order to deal with the things we have shared here. If you want to add things or tell God more about your situation, then is mentioned in this prayer, by all means, please do. This is your personal and intimate moment with your God, the One Who is Trustworthy, Faithful and True. All the way. All the time. 


Precious Lord Jesus, Father God, Holy Spirit, I come before You, in Your presence. I want to confess that I have sinned by trusting in man, by trusting in myself and by trusting in my own judgment. I now realize that that trust can’t be combined with trusting You, as my God and Savior. Therefore I now choose to give up my trust in men, my trust in myself and my trust in my judgment. I want to repent from it and choose to think and act according to Your Word alone from this moment on. I declare that from this moment on, my trust is in You alone. I’m giving up all my pride and humble myself before You. Change my heart, Jesus. I depend on You. Heal me, deliver me and restore me, precious Jesus. 

And now I take a stand, in the authority that Jesus Christ gave me (Luke 10:19). In the mighty name of Jesus Christ I now break the curse that is connected to trusting in man and to making flesh my strength. I have confessed my sins, and therefore I am forgiven (1 John 1:9) and my sins are blotted out (Acts 3:19). I now declare this curse to be broken, in Jesus mighty name! I am blessed for I trust in the Lord and my hope is in Him. I shall be like a tree planted by the waters, which spreads out its roots by the river, and will not fear when heat comes. My leaf will be green, and I will not be anxious in a year of drought, nor will I cease from yielding fruit. (Jeremiah 17:7-8). Amen!

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